Written by Taylor Satchell Reid
When I was a little girl, all I cared about was being a Spice Girl. They loved life, were living it up and had each other for support! Who cared about guys!? However, it seems that once you’ve hit your twenties, the teen spirit really does diminish. In fact, it’s wise to prepare a suitable storage space for the array of wedding invitations that start flying your way. Quite quickly, we can find ourselves wondering when ‘our time’ will be and worry that maybe, we’re running out. Luckily, there is a whole load of evidence and truth that we can turn to when we start to feel the pressure. Scroll down, or watch the video! It’s time to take back our ‘girl power’ with the help of some classic Spice Girl’s singles…
Honestly, I hate the thought of being a wannabe, when I'm the best at being me. And yet, when surrounded by friends who are tying the knot it's no surprise how easy it is to want to be more like them! Quickly we become the wannabe bride, taking up time to plan the perfect Pinterest wedding instead of designing our own lives to celebrate the person we are. If we truly believe our steps are marked out for us, then why are we so busy watching other people’s feet instead of ‘working it’ on our own walk? Now there’s nothing wrong with wanting to meet the man who’ll sweep you off your feet, but confidently standing alone allows you to learn the characteristics, gifts and purpose you have - things that I'm sure other people have 'wanted to be’, but couldn’t, because they weren't you. Single life is a time to explore being a happy you, before becoming an ‘us’. It’s an opportunity to give the goodness you have to others, without having to sign anything over. And the best part? You don't have to be a 'wannabe' you. Because you're smashing it.
'All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be...' Psalm 139
Spice Up Your Life
For some, it can feel like having a new boyfriend or getting that shiny engagement ring is the only way to add a bit of spice and sparkle to your life. And yet, in reality, there are so many cheaper and easier ways to get some excitement in the single life! Firstly, there are much greater gifts than presents from your favourite jewellers, I promise. While we love things that catch the light like a 90s disco ball, in the Bible, singleness itself is referred to as a gift to those it has been specifically chosen for. It’s a specific amount of time plotted out for you to enjoy, embrace and unwrap. Secondly, adventure and spontaneity are yours to take without concerning another person! After all, the God who gives us dreams, passions and direction can have our attention in full. If you’re bored of where you’re at, take some spice advice and ‘swing it, shake it, move it, make it!’ Whether it's travelling, socialising or even launching a magazine - let your life sparkle for itself!
I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 1 Corinthians 7
2 Become 1
And it's not all about sex - although sure, that's a great perk of marriage. But with marriage, comes a whole heap of responsibility. While you may be the most caring and accommodating friend in your circle, marriage initiates a huge priorities shift and added to you is the responsibility and care of another human being. It means preferring another, sharing and working out your direction and vision. It means new levels of sacrifice and compromise. Not to mention sharing the burdens of ill-health and finances, which according to sex therapist, Pete Saddington, is one of the top five reasons for divorce if not done properly. Of course, with marriage comes an array of gifts and new experiences, but I think it's important to know how to look after yourself before attempting to carry someone else! While falling in love can often be a surprise (not to be pushed away out of fear), we can enjoy the time we have to iron out our own individual issues. It’s easy to be on the lookout for the right man, but are you the right woman? If I’ve learnt anything, it’s that rushing to search someone else’s qualities and struggles takes the attention off of your own! Search yourself, and let God search you before searching for partner. He knows what you want and need. Seek God first, and be open to what gets added to you!
Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Psalm 139
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